SAY NO TO PSEUDO FEMINISM

Women are most probably the most complex and complicated creatures of the world, and how much ever we deny it, the truth is not going to change. Right now, the world is at a place where one of the main topics for discussion and one of the main global issues is Women Empowerment. Females all over the world are fighting for their needs and their right to equality. But we often forget that the aim is equality not superiority. Whenever a girl accuses someone of behaving inappropriately, everyone instantly believes her before even investigating the entire thing. He is already guilty before trial. Once there is an allegation against a guy for misbehaving with a girl, even after he is proven not guilty, people will see him as a bad person. One wrong accusation can ruin his life and accusation. But if the opposite happens, then very few will behave in the same way, the girl will be innocent until proven otherwise. A recent example is of the Lucknow girl who slapped a cab drive at the Awadh Crossing in Uttar Pradesh, India, twenty-two times after he allegedly hit her by his cab. The video shows the cab to be behind the zebra crossing though. There is also a traffic police officer present at the scene, but he also does not stop the girl from doing so. She also broke the driver’s phone and looted him of six hundred rupees says The Times of India. Even after all this, the police did not do anything about the girl, they only lodged a complaint against her when they received heavy criticism from social media. Feminism and women empowerment are one thing but thrashing men like this is not at all acceptable. Now if the opposite had happened, a boy had slapped a girl in the exact same scenario, then it would be the biggest sin he has ever done. Like how can a boy hit a girl, right? The right thing is that no one hits anyone!

This is the problem now, females want empowerment and equality, but also want less punishment than males in the same crimes. They want the same opportunities but less drawbacks. I agree that in the past we have got very few opportunities and a hell lot of drawbacks, but times have changed, and we are getting much better openings, so if we mess that up then I feel we ought to own up to the mistakes we have committed with them. We females have a bad habit of stereotyping men into being not-so-good human being who want to pull down women to prove their superiority, and sure some are that way, but not all. We do not hear that uncle’s gossip about how a girl dresses or where is she going with a guy or how short that girl’s dress is, these are all aunties. Women themselves. We might not want to accept that, but it is mostly women that bad moth other women and then make themselves believe that all the wrong and bad that has happened to them is because of men.

There sure are exceptions everywhere, but the main point is to not stereotype people based on their gender. Men can be nice and caring and women can be evil and speak bad of others. Once we stop stereotyping, that is when we can achieve equality, because gender equality is a human fight, not a female fight.

Another example of when, according to me women are given too much credit is during childbirth and the upbringing of children. I agree that it is the mothers that nurture the baby in their womb for nine months, going through too much pain, but we often overlook the contribution of the father. He might not carry the baby in him, but he too loves the baby as much as the mother, if not more. The father is the one who takes care of the mother during all the pain, he oversees her mood swings and moreover provides financially as the cost of one more person has been added. He undergoes stress too but that is ignored many a times over the mother. Even at the time of abortion, the father has no control if she does the abortion or not, even when he too has a part of what is in her. I feel that if we are talking about female rights, we should not disregard some male rights.

Also in India, we often regard to women as Goddesses. So, if equality stands there, why do we not call men as Gods? I agree that housewives play a pivotal role in making a “house”, a “home”, but then the money she is using has been earned by her working husband. So logically both are playing roles complementary to make the household a happy one. Then, in this case, the husband should be Lakshmi, the Goddess of Money, as he brings in the money.

All these are my point of views, and I am sure many of you feel differently. Everything I said does not apply to everyone and there are exceptions everywhere. I am not against the empowerment of women from their state when they had less rights, but the line between feminism and pseudo feminism is very thin and most people cross it. That is when it becomes unfair and that is not right. They should have equal, not more rights. I agree to what Vaani Kapoor says, “In a world full of pseudo feminists, be the one who strives for equality.”